Today is my first session with my new business coach and last night, I was reflecting on prior coaching experiences throughout my life. 𝘊𝘳𝘰𝘴𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘺, 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘬, 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘮.
Although the context of the coaching experience I recall the most is probably a bit 𝘢𝘵𝘺𝘱𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭, I suspect the experience as a whole is not unfamiliar for many.
One memory that has lingered and continued to influence my work was when I briefly worked with a coach in preparation for the 𝘔𝘪𝘴𝘴 𝘐𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘰𝘪𝘴 𝘚𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘢𝘳𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘗𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘤𝘪𝘳𝘤𝘢 𝟸𝟶𝟶𝟺. I had the opportunity to work a little with Karen DeWert- coach to several Miss Americas and just an all around amazing woman. As a largely self-funded contestant, I only met with her a couple times. That said, over 15 years later, I still recall her urging me to journal. The memories are a bit fuzzy but to my recollection she said, “𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘢 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘺. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘢𝘺.” 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬.
At that point in my life, 𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞. Would I have or could I have won? Who the heck knows, especially in scholarship pageants. 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐬𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩! Not doubling down on practicing my talent piece. Not pushing myself to do more uncomfortable aspects of preparation such as more mock interviews. You get the idea.
Now at 36, rather than 20 or 22, I am finally making strides to push away lingering doubts and double down on my inner fire.
I am sharing my education, my experiences, and my voice with others.
I am fully capable of building my own business/brand.
I am worthy of success.
It has taken all of these years to grow the confidence in myself to believe it and act on it. Better late than never.